Kelly’s Anal Training Tips
As a transsexual adult entertai..
🕑 Added 2020-09-11 17:43:57 +0000 UTC
Kelly’s Anal Training Tips
As a transsexual adult entertainer, and anal expert, anal sex advice is probably the most frequent question I get from fans, peers in the industry, and friends. Hell, even my sister has asked me for anal advice for her relationship. The popularity of anal sex has skyrocketed among straight men and women in recent years due to many factors including porn, greater willingness to experiment sexually, the continued general loosening of sexual norms, the increased popularity and attention in pop culture of big butts, and also just because it was something new to try for many people. The two questions I get most frequently are: 1) how do you keep it clean; and 2) how do you make it hurt less? I will answer both of these questions, and then some.
As for cleanliness, if you want an enjoyable, clean butt sex experience, the most important step is to clean yourselves out first. Follow my instructions for the proper cleanse.
The cleanse (what I call the pornstar cleanse)
Making sure that you cleanse your colon first will not just avoid the dirty, smelly consequences that can ruin the experience for you both, it will actually make the experience feel better for the bottom. Many inexperienced bottoms complain about feeling as if they have to go to the bathroom the first time they do anal. This is because there is still you know what matter in the colon that the sphincter muscle wants to push out. You need to clear all of this out so that there will be less pain and no messiness…
Preliminary colon preparation:
If you have never cleansed your colon before, I suggest one of two things: either start cleansing a week before you plan on having anal intercourse, and do it two or three times; or schedule yourself to get a colonic so that you get a deep cleanse. People don’t realize what builds up in the colon over the years, and without doing a deep cleanse, a big enough penis going up there can still dislodge some old stuff!
Before sex colon preparation:
Once your colon is healthy and cleared of years-old buildup, you are primed and ready for butt sex. Always make sure you do an a clean out before sex. In terms of the exact clean out system to buy, I recommend using the Fleet which is available at most major pharmacies. Look for the box that advertises “70% more!” The cost is about $2.99, and the bottle is reusable several times as long as you clean and sanitize the top (the portion you stick in your butt!).
For those of you who have never done, or have not done one recently, you should go ahead and use the liquid (saline) that comes in the bottle. If you are a more frequent user of (have constipation problems) or if you just had a colonic in the past 2 or 3 days, or have used in the past week for your deep cleanse, you should empty the bottle and use luke warm water instead. For the first release, I squeeze the luke warm water with the bottle in my rectum three times, I hold until feeling the need to release, and then release. After the first release, I rinse again, but use only one bottle of warm water at a time. I do this until the water comes out clear and I feel no more tension. I finish the process by testing to make sure I am completely clean and there is no more water. To do this, I use a glass dildo. If the glass is clean when it comes out, then I know everything is out. Also, this helps to make sure there is no more water in the colon because sometimes water will stay in the bowels and then release during sex.
Training your butt for anal
Many people mistakenly think that because they can stick a dildo inside them that they are prepared for anal sex, but they find out that having anal intercourse is vastly different than tolerating the feel of a dildo. When you use a dildo, you have the control; during sex, when someone else has the control, it’s an entirely different story. The key to mastering the difference is training your sphincter muscle to be able to contract and relax. Remember, the more you tense up, the more it will hurt.
I recommend to begin your sphincter training with anal plugs. Anal plugs are available in a variety of sizes – from small to large. Start with the smallest size, and leave it in for as long as you can tolerate it. I suggest buying the plugs without the round base so you can sit or pull your pants up and go about your day. This will slowly and slightly stretch your anal muscle so that it starts to get used to having a penis in there. When I started training as a bottom, I would leave mine in for two to three hours a day.
And there’s no need to leave the plug in your first few times. If you are only comfortable sticking it in for a few minutes while lying down, then do this first and slowly graduate to leaving it in.
When you and your partner are ready for your first anal sex experience, it’s important that she/he/they not just shove “it” in – like she/he/they might if it was a vagina – because that could cause painful tearing. You have to start slowly, and allow the sphincter time to loosen up. This is one of the things that makes anal sex more difficult, because the top has to stay hard for a longer period without pleasure, while the sphincter slowly opens enough for insertion. Once it is inside, make sure to start with slow, soft thrusts, until she/he/they feels comfortable with faster, harder thrusts. There are some things you can do to help the sphincter loosen up more quickly, like using fingers first or a tongue. In my experience, the initial discomfort subsides within five minutes.
Find a good lube
Choosing the right lube for butt sex is crucial! The sphincter is not the same as a vagina, so your usual lube might not work. Many lubes dry out quickly; some stain your sheets; and a few will eat away at the condom. You also have to weigh the trade-off between easing the bottoms pain and guaranteeing tops pleasure. The heavier and thicker the lube, the more lubricating it is – and pain-reducing – it is for bottom, but the more it reduces the friction and pleasure for top. Finding the right lube might take trial-and-error, so practice, practice, practice! Personally, I recommend Spunk Lube, and I have tried many different brands of lube. It’s in the mid-price range – not the cheapest but not the most expensive. It lasts for a long time so there’s fewer interruptions to re-apply and it doesn’t stain your sheets. They offer a variety of bases – water-based, silicone-based, as well as a mixture. Best of all, they don’t eat away at the condom.
Once you get more experienced you may want to try organic coconut oil to help the top feel more pleasure! It will warm up your hole and increase feeling and friction for the top! I personally use this with my husband and he loves it!
Final Thoughts – Try Not To Forget It’s Supposed to be Pleasurable
If you’re having sex with a transsexual, don’t forget that we have this thing called a prostate and it acts like the g-spot does in women. It’s located about 2 ½ to 3 inches inside the anal cavity. You can aim for it during penetration, or massage it during fingering. When it is massaged correctly, it can make your partner ejaculate or give them the feeling of ejaculation. The second area of pleasure is called the perineum – the area of skin between the testicles and anus. Stimulating these areas will highly intensify your trans partner’s sexual experience and orgasm. If you doubt this, I can tell you from personal experience that I have multiple orgasms – four to six of them! – just from receiving anal sex without my penis being touched at all.
The best positions for the top to utilize for hitting the trans prostate is either lying her on her stomach and lying on top of her for insertion or do her bulldog style not doggy style!
